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March 8, 2023

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Meet Elenor Mak, the founder of Jilly Bing, a company that is changing the face of the dolls and toys industry. Her journey to creating Jilly Bing began with her desire to break down stereotypes and provide a positive reflection of Asian-American girls.

Elenor believes that toys play an essential role in helping children make sense of the world around them, and dolls are an essential tool in building self-esteem and self-acceptance. Her mission with Jilly Bing is to create a line of dolls and toys that accurately represent Asian-American children and help to nurture a deeper appreciation of Asian culture.

By involving children and families in the creation process of Jilly Bing, Elenor hopes to create a community that celebrates diversity and encourages a sense of belonging. 

Read through as Elenor shared about her childhood as a first-generation Chinese-American, and her mission to create dolls that reflect the diversity of Asian American girls and promote cultural understanding.

FROM MACAO TO AMERICA

I am a first-generation Chinese-American. My Mom was born in Singapore, and my Dad was born in China. They met in Macao and immigrated to the US before I was born. Growing up, both of my parents worked as back-office postal clerks, which required grueling night shifts and strenuous manual work. Their limited English disqualified them from jobs that would have been easier, like a front-desk clerk. 

Despite that, my Mom firmly believed in only speaking Chinese (Cantonese) at home and even sent me to Saturday classes for Mandarin. As an adult, I am so grateful for my Mom’s insistence that I am fluent in her native language because it helps me remain connected to my heritage.

MY MOTHER MADE SURE I HAD A VOICE

As a young child, I was rather shy. By contrast, my Mom is a strong, outgoing woman. But being a non-English-speaking immigrant, she lost her “voice.” She would make me challenge adults when she didn’t get the right change at a shop or something was wrong with an order she had placed. Perhaps because of this, I came out of my shell by the time I was in second grade.

Looking back, I believe my Mom was determined to make sure I knew I had a voice or say in matters, even as a kid, so that I would not be afraid to use my voice as an adult. 

My daughter’s voice is Loud with a capital “L,” even at the age of 3, which is so at odds with the stereotypical representations of Asian girls and women as demure, pretty little things. I wanted to break down those stereotypes and create a doll that is similar to the Asian American girls we know and love

My mom was determined to make sure I knew I had a voice or say in matters, even as a kid, so that I would not be afraid to use my voice as an adult. 

-Elenor Mak

A REFLECTION ON MY FIRST DOLL

I don’t recall my first impression of my first doll, named Ada, but she was a gift from my parents, and I was only 5 or 6 years old, so I’m pretty sure I was thrilled. She wore a baby bonnet, and I remember wanting to take care of her as any good Mommy would.

I also remember thinking that her blonde hair and blue eyes were so beautiful. Of course, I didn’t have those features, so on some level, I guess I wanted us to look more similar. My Mom tells a story that, one day, I took scissors to Ada’s hair because I wanted her hair to be like mine, which — like many Asian girls growing up in the 1980s — was a short bob. Long, blonde hair was something beautiful people had, something “other” people had. I do remember feeling like an “other” when I looked at Ada. 

I took scissors to Ada’s hair because I wanted her hair to be like mine.

-Elenor Mak

THE IMPORTANCE FOR CHILDREN TO SEE THEMSELVES REFLECTED IN THEIR TOYS

Toys help children make sense of the world around them, and some of the first toys ever discovered are dolls that date back to 8,000 BC in Japan and 2,000 BC in Egypt. What is baffling to me is that the year is 2023, and missing from toy shelves in US stores are authentic-looking Asian dolls.

The ones that are available are cartoony-looking or dressed in very traditional clothing that does not reflect today’s Asian American children. Several dolls are brunettes with round eyes, an Asian-sounding name, and an upward swish of black eyeliner that supposedly creates Asian eyes.

While I was initially saddened by this, I’m now thrilled that I get to create a company that solves such a glaring error. We are so proud when parents see our first doll and say, “She looks like my daughter.” 

HOW NOT HAVING A DOLL THAT LOOKS LIKE THEM AFFECT CHILDREN AS THEY DEVELOP SELF-ACCEPTANCE

When an Asian child walks into a national chain store and heads to the doll aisle, and sees lots and lots of dolls, but does not see a doll that looks like them, that is the moment that the first damage is done to their self-esteem and self-acceptance.

The moment they start to wonder, “Why not?” Or even worse, the moment they think, “Is there something wrong with me because I look Asian?” 

DOLLS AS CULTURAL MIRRORS TO NURTURE DEEPER HERITAGE APPRECIATION

Role-playing with dolls, action figures, or even stuffed animals, help children sort through their emotions. When they pretend to be superheroes, they are trying to feel powerful. If you hear a child tell a stuffed animal to “wash your hands before dinner,” they are probably trying to make sense of their parent’s rules. 

We want our dolls to help children understand their heritage. We are creating accessories that help recast their interpretation of Asian food, for example. It is not smelly and embarrassing, as I thought it was when I was in elementary school. Asian food is something that their doll loves to make and celebrate. If the doll herself plays with mini egg tarts or sushi rolls, the barrier to understanding is instantly lower. 

As strange as it may seem, there is no one-stop-shop for parents who want to teach their kids about Asian cultures. It requires a lot of legwork to find resources, and parents are busy. In fact, 91%of Asian American parents we surveyed replied “yes” when asked, “Do you need help finding educational content to teach children about Asian culture and heritage?”

I want Jilly Bing to be the brand that makes it easy for parents to introduce and deeply explore every aspect of all Asian cultures.

INVOLVING CHILDREN AND FAMILIES IN THE CREATION PROCESS OF JILLY BING DOLL

When we were creating the prototype of the doll, we leaned on my children and our friends and family to see if our vision was resonating with them. To gather data, we surveyed adults through several social media networks that have huge followings. It was not a short survey, so I was amazed to see how many people gave us feedback; it was another moment when I knew we were striking a chord with many Asian adults who felt unseen as children.  

Now we have the luxury of formalizing feedback with focus groups and people who want to support our mission of representation. We created an official Jilly Bing Ambassador Community for our strongest supporters, and we will turn to them for feedback on future dolls and new products.

It was not a short survey, so I was amazed to see how many people gave us feedback.

-Elenor Mak

WHAT MY DAUGHTER THOUGHT WHEN SHE FIRST SAW THE JILLY BING DOLL

Jillian was just shy about her third birthday when she saw the prototype of the doll. First, she did a big dramatic gasp, and then she said, “Me!” and hugged the doll so hard that its not-quite-fully-secured head popped off the body. At that moment, I knew we had a winner. 

WHAT PARENTS ARE SAYING ABOUT JILLY BING

Much of the feedback is coming from adult women. Just like my daughter’s first reaction, they say they gasped out loud, and many say they proceeded to cry. I keep hearing, “This is the doll I always wanted when I was growing up.”

One woman captured how heartbreakingly wrong the status quo is: “Even in play, Asian girls have had to envision life as someone else … This vision is so much more than a toy, it is being seen!”

ADDRESSING THE NEED FOR INCLUSIVITY AND DIVERSITY IN THE TOY INDUSTRY

The toy industry needs a refresh, as do media companies that are creating content for children. It feels as though they are checking off boxes. They want to be able to say, “Look, we have an Asian doll. We have a Black doll.” Or “Here! We did a movie with Chinese immigrant parents and US-born kids.” But they are just doing the bare minimum.

I like to think Jilly Bing is the first company to take a holistic view of how representation can live and breathe within our children’s daily lives, instead of being compartmentalized inside a checkbox. My analogy is Paw Patrol. Those pups are everywhere, from socks to movies to enough toys to fill a football stadium.

If our vision becomes a reality, the fun, cheeky characters and accessories, books, and content that celebrate Asian American culture will be everywhere too. 

What can consumers do to drive this change? I ask them to support us by purchasing a doll at www.jillybing.com and spreading the word. As the famous saying goes, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

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Cheryl Mainland on Making Chinese Cool and Empowering the Next Generation

“Over time, I realized that speaking and understanding Chinese wasn’t just a ‘useful skill’—it is my superpower and key to belonging,” says Cheryl Mainland, Founder & CEO of Dragon Academy. Her fluency in Chinese has been a source of identity and has played a key role in her journey—from understanding her cultural heritage to excelling at Harvard in East Asia Studies and negotiating successful global business deals.

Recognizing the power of language to bridge cultures and connect with 1.3 billion native Chinese speakers, Cheryl is now committed to creating an engaging and interactive multi-media platform for children and adults worldwide to learn Chinese through Dragon Academy.

At its core, Dragon Academy is an epic tale of nine multicultural teens journeying through six mystical realms brimming with ancient legends, mythical beasts, and dragons – all united in a quest to bridge worlds. This story is told across multiple media formats and channels, including a book series, social media content, an AI animation series, and other cultural initiatives. Complementing their adventure is a highly gamified app that transforms Chinese language learning into an exciting, immersive, (and even addictive) experience.

A mother of three, serial entrepreneur, lifelong adventurer, and avid surfer, Cheryl has become an inspiration to many. She has been featured in top media outlets such as The Wall Street Journal, Financial Times, Vogue, Tatler, WWD, and numerous other prestigious publications.

Cheryl Mainland, Founder & CEO, Dragon Academy (Image Source: Samanta Katz)

The Struggle of Language and Identity

Cheryl embodies the essence of a third-culture kid. Born in Taiwan, she is half-Chinese, half-American, and raised across Asia, she navigated the complexities of identity, language, and belonging from an early age.

Cheryl with her maternal and paternal grandmothers Taipei, Taiwan, 1983 (Image Source: Cheryl Mainland)

“Like many of us, I grew up straddling two worlds. The ultimate translator of languages, cultures, generations.  I carry with me the collective memory of (boring) Saturday Chinese school, the struggle of keeping up with my Chinese lessons, and the challenge of celebrating my heritage while forging my own path,” Cheryl says. “After having kids, I witnessed their similar struggles – nothing has changed.” She recognized that the traditional methods of learning Chinese – endless hours of copying hanzi characters on square grid paper (田字格) – have experienced minimal change over the centuries, relying on rote memorization rather than engagement.

Not wanting her children to face the same language learning struggles she faced (and hundreds of thousands of other Chinese learners), Cheryl is embracing this as an opportunity to spark a cultural movement that breathes new life into the Chinese language and culture. Dragon Academy’s strategy ignites a passion for learning through an epic narrative delivered via a highly gamified app, an AI mini-series, a book series, social media content, and a future film adaptation. Each of the multimedia platform components captures the story-based enthusiasm, teaching Chinese through nine proprietary building block methods that make learning Chinese fun, engaging, and truly relevant.

Dragon Academy Universe: the foundation of a highly gamified Chinese language learning app, book series, cartoons, feature films, documentaries, merchandise, and console games. (Image Source: Cheryl Mainland)

Cheryl’s Entrepreneurial Journey: Empowering the Masses

Throughout Cheryl’s entrepreneurial ventures, a constant theme has been empowering communities by identifying unmet needs and transforming the “uncool” into “cool” through innovative solutions. From dressing corporate women in clothes that boosted their self-confidence in the boardroom (The Fold London), to inspiring tweens and teens “to wear their invisible crown” on all special occasions (PromGirl.com), to reimagining sun-protective fashion—proving that staying safe in the sun doesn’t mean sacrificing style (Mott50)—her work consistently uplifts and inspires.


Most recently, to celebrate the launch of Dragon Academy Book 1 during Lunar New Year 2025, Cheryl partnered with artist Archie Geotina to honor the 46 million-strong Chinese diaspora through Pearls, an art series. Chinese Pearls features three generations of female surfers from diverse Chinese heritage – Indonesian Chinese, Singaporean Chinese, mixed-Chinese families, adoptees, and expats – riding Bali’s iconic waves in modern QiPao, empowering the community and highlighting its resilience, heritage, and unity.

A Future for the Community

“As an Asian American entrepreneur, Asian American mom, and a lifelong advocate for bridging cultures, I resonate deeply with AHN’s mission to uplift and empower the global Asian diaspora,” Cheryl affirms.  

She draws a parallel between Dragon Academy’s goal to reignite the next generation’s connection to their heritage and AHN’s commitment to rewriting narratives and celebrating Asian excellence. When asked about her future plans, Cheryl confidently states, “We are on an ambitious mission to increase the percentage of the world that speaks Chinese by 5% over the next five years.”

An estimated 5 million people started learning Japanese because of Manga, 15 million took up Korean because of K-pop, Dragon Academy is set to start a Chinese language movement. By juxtaposing storytelling and technology, Dragon Academy is approaching Chinese language learning from an “obsess, learn, master” order. 

“Imagine a world where kids want to learn Chinese because they see it as their ultimate superpower and key to belonging. That’s the future we’re building,” exclaims Cheryl.

And the journey is just beginning. Dragon Academy Book 1 launched at the beginning of this year. The highly gamified learning app, immersive AI mini-series, and a host of exciting cultural initiatives are currently in development. The first round of external investment has commenced – seeking visionary, like-minded investors to join this transformative movement.  Dragon Academy is poised to redefine the landscape of Chinese language learning and cultural exploration.

DRAGON ACADEMY “Traditional Scene.” The OG Dragon Keepers, ancestors of the 9 multicultural teenage protagonists of the Dragon Academy Universe. (Artist: Andrew Archer)

Learn More about Dragon Academy

Website: https://dragonacademy.com/

Instagram: @dragonacademy_official

Book 1: www.amazon.com/dp/B0DM4YDLL3

Connect With Cheryl Mainland

Instagram: @cherylmainland

LinkedIn: Cheryl Mainland

Email: Cheryl@dragonacademy.com

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The Power of Representation: Ami Desai’s Impact on Media and Beauty

The path to success in content creation is never paved with roses, and no one understands this quite like Ami Desai. From her beginnings in broadcast journalism to becoming a well-known beauty and lifestyle influencer, Ami has shaped her career through authenticity, adaptability, and a strong dedication to representation.

As an Indian-American raised in Los Angeles, Ami grew up as a first-generation South Asian immigrant, a generation that deeply felt the need for greater South Asian representation in the media. After earning her degree from UC Berkeley and a master’s from Boston University, she built a solid media foundation through roles at CNN and Inside Edition. During this time behind the scenes, she discovered her passion for on-camera hosting, eventually landing her dream role as the host of the first digital show for Oprah.com. In 2011, Ami made a pivotal move by hosting a luxury travel show in India, which allowed her to reconnect with her roots and gain international exposure.

Simultaneously, Ami began building her own beauty business with her family. She went on to become one of the first South Asian content creators to collaborate with major brands like Toyota and Pampers on large campaigns, while also highlighting important Indian traditions and holidays such as Diwali. Recognizing the lack of representation for her ethnicity in the media and beauty industries, Ami founded her life’s mission, merging her experiences as a host, makeup artist, and mom to help other women advocate for themselves while balancing various roles. This gap in representation became her motivation to amplify underrepresented voices and promote diversity.

In 2016, Ami took a leap of faith, leaving traditional media behind to forge her own path in the influencer space. Despite pitching herself as a contributor or expert to various outlets, she faced rejection, which drove her to create her own content on social media platforms. Through this experience, she realized that content creation involved more than just posting visually appealing images—it required strategic planning, engagement tracking, and brand pitching. Even as the industry pushed her to narrow her niche, Ami confidently embraced her multifaceted identity, sharing content that reflected her life as a mother, beauty expert, and entrepreneur. This authenticity deeply resonated with her audience, ultimately helping her build a loyal fanbase connecting creators and audiences.

In the latest episode of the Creators Podcast, presented by Asian Hustle Network in collaboration with Meta Prosper, Ami shares a story of resilience, adaptability, and a deep dedication to her community. Whether you’re an aspiring content creator, a beauty lover, or someone who enjoys learning about authentic journeys, this episode is filled with valuable insights and inspiration.

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Is the Model Minority Myth an Obstacle to Real Representation?

The Trap of Positive Stereotypes

The original “Charlie’s Angels” was a successful hit, not only because it made $93 million and grossed more than $264 million at global offices, but it also created exposure for Asian American representation.

Lucy Liu plays Alex Munday, a strategist, expert martial artist, and agent. Munday’s parents were Havard professors of economics and philosophy, and she, at an early age, was a child prodigy excelling at chess, equestrianism, fencing, archery, and gymnastics. Besides that, she holds a medical degree, spent her teenage years learning with a Tibetan guru, danced with the Stuttgart Ballet, and was a part-time aerospace engineer and on-call consultant for NASA. 

Lucy Liu as Alex Munday in 'Charlie's Angels' (Image source: 'Charlie's Angels' - 2000)

Lucy Liu as Alex Munday in ‘Charlie’s Angels’ (Image source: ‘Charlie’s Angels’ – 2000)

Does the entire introduction sound familiar? Swap out the name Alex Munday for your overachieving Asian cousin, sibling, or the “top Asian kid” your parents always compare you to, and you’d likely end up with a strikingly similar description.

It is undeniable that contemporary films, comedies, memes, and other forms of content have taken extensive lengths to represent Asian culture. Yet, they have also perpetuated a troubling stereotype. To complicate matters, many within the Asian community unknowingly reinforce these portrayals, cementing these narratives even further.

The article’s purpose is not to mock or diminish the accomplishments of any individual, community, or effort in striving for representation and equality. On the contrary, it is essential to celebrate the contributions of the many talents and media that have significantly advanced global awareness and appreciation of Asian culture and heritage. Hence, the article wishes to provide a nuanced perspective on contemporary topics while providing debate on the norms, beliefs, and habits created in our society.

What is the Model Minority Myth?

According to the University of Michigan, Densho, and other sources, after World War II, the United States underwent significant changes in its laws and policies to address mounting international criticism of racial prejudice and ongoing protests from ethnic communities within the country. 

“Success Story, Japanese American Style” by William Petersen (Image source: Smithsonian APA)

“Success Story, Japanese American Style” by William Petersen (Image source: Smithsonian APA)

As PBS illustrates, new regulations like the Chinese Exclusion Act shifted toward dismantling exclusionary measures and advocating for Asian communities and immigrants, particularly skilled and educated migrants. The University of Michigan further exemplifies, articles like “Success Story, Japanese American Style” by William Petersen began to appear  – praising how despite years of racial prejudice and discrimination, Japanese Americans were still able to achieve great socioeconomic status thanks to hard work and other cultural values of discipline and compliance to social hierarchy. 

By focusing on the facets of income, education level, and low crime rates as the definition of success instead of underlining economic and social factors, Asian Americans are often portrayed as hardworking, disciplined, and intelligent—a concept scholars refer to as the model minority. 

Model Minority Myth in Silencing Activism

While this stereotype may appear beneficial on the surface, Ted-Ed, in collaboration with Densho, emphasizes that there are no “good” stereotypes. As cited by PBS, cultural historian Robert G. Lee argues that such inclusion does not promote equity but instead undermines activism and disregards the struggles of other marginalized groups.

This is significant because the model minority myth obscures disparities within the diverse Asian American community, perpetuating the misconception that Asian identity is monolithic, often reduced to just China, Korea, and Japan. Furthermore, the stereotype marginalizes individuals who fail to meet its expectations, silencing those who speak out against it.

Societal pressure on Asian individuals (Image source: Kamanaoleeward)

Societal pressure on Asian individuals (Image source: Kamanaoleeward)

For instance, an Asian student with subpar grades might be labeled as lazy rather than being understood in the context of contributing factors like economic hardship or family struggles. The danger of accepting “positive” stereotypes lies in their ability to perpetuate harmful narratives and create unrealistic standards, fostering a cycle of self-framing that damages both individuals and the broader Asian community.

When Representation Unintentionally Reinforces Stereotypes

Let’s use another example to understand this dichotomy. 

Ke Huy Quan, the American actor of Vietnamese descent, is well known in the notorious “Indiana Jones and The Temple of Doom”, “Everything Everywhere All At Once”, and “Loki” Season 2. His selection as an exemplar highlights how his journey encapsulates the model minority stereotype and demonstrates how Asian communities may unconsciously perpetuate such narratives.

In “Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom”, Quan portrays Short Round, a clever Japanese sidekick aiding Dr. Jones on his adventures. Ironically, this character aligns with the early stages of the model minority stereotype. Short Round comes from a disadvantaged background, surviving through pickpocketing, but his association with Dr. Jones transforms him into a more thoughtful and capable individual, elevating his social status by the film’s conclusion.

In “Everything Everywhere All At Once”, Quan embraces the archetype of the modern Bruce Lee or Jackie Chan—a martial arts expert and mentor to the protagonist, reminiscent of Mr. Miyagi in “The Karate Kid”. Finally in Loki Quan plays Ouroboros, a lovable and intelligent technician who once was a writer and a teacher of theoretical physics at Cal Tech. 

Ke Huy Quan (Image source: The Independent)

Ke Huy Quan (Image source: The Independent)

In a meta and somewhat ironic twist, both Ke Huy Quan’s career and the roles he portrays reflect how Asians may unknowingly perpetuate the stereotypes they are often subject to. While Quan’s rise to fame is a testament to his dedication and perseverance, his portrayal of characters like the “witty young sidekick” learning from a Caucasian hero, the martial arts mentor, and the intellectual expert, inadvertently reinforces the very tropes that have shaped the Asian image in media. Despite his immense talent and the love he has earned within the Asian community, these roles contribute to the ongoing cycle of cultural expectations and representation.

Breaking the Myth of the Model Asian

It is entirely debatable that it is not the fault of the actors. We admire Ke Huy Quan for his remarkable journey and his representation of the Asian community. Nevertheless, through observing content produced by modern media, one will recognize certain tropes from the Asian community. 

Steven He satirizes Asian parents, Jimmy O. Yang joking about Asian habits, Lily in “Pitch Perfect”, Rajesh Koothrappali in “The Big Bang Theory”, Louis and Jessia Huang in “Fresh Off The Boat”, and the list goes on. Even the news you see about an “Asian underdog politician” rising to power or the “overlooked Asian business owner” continues to reinforce these themes. While these portrayals are well-intended, they still fall into a pattern of representation that, ironically, reflects the very stereotypes they aim to challenge.

These stereotypes create an environment of competition and segregation in the Asian community, where individuals feel pressured to conform to a specific image. To maintain an idealized representation, certain behaviors become expected, specific careers are favored, and everyone feels compelled to excel in particular areas.

A ramification of this mindset would be far-reaching. For example, economic struggles may be ignored, as the stereotype dictates that all Asians should be successful. Mental health issues among children are dismissed because it is assumed that the Asian parenting and education system naturally fosters resilience. Furthermore, social problems like drug use or teenage pregnancy are seen as impossible within this community because Asians are stereotypically perceived as disciplined and morally upright. These misconceptions, while seemingly small, perpetuate harmful beliefs and ultimately hinder inclusivity, reinforcing negative stereotypes that shape the broader perception of the Asian community.

Shaping Our Own Story in Media and Beyond

“There are more Asians than any kind of race on the planet. That means we are the majority, we dictate normal behavior,” Ronny Cheng states in his comedy skit.

Asia comprises 59% of the world’s population, hence we are the majority. However, this work is not a manifesto calling for the unification of an ideal but serves as a reflection of the society we live in. The media plays a pivotal role in shaping our perception. The argument is not to elicit a conspiracy theory but to help readers ponder the question, how do we want to be represented? Thanks to pioneers like Lucy Liu and Ke Huy Quan, the Asian community has gradually won more exposure from media outlets. Now, it is the turn of the new generation to represent the Asian community in all its diversity and complexity.

Sources:

The Conversation, Pew Research Center, Adoptive Families, 2 Sao, Vietcetera, TruTV, USA Today, Tien Phong, Screen Rant, Marvel, Mary Sue, Indiana Jones Wiki Fandom, Charlie Angels Wiki Fandom, Vanity Fair, Washington Post, Ted Ed, Densho, PBS, University of Michigan.

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The American Dream: A Promise, a Paradox, and the Asian Experience

The Immigrant Struggle

“We dream of going to America, to change our lives, we believed. But my life changed so much. I felt sad about life, didn’t know the language, and didn’t know the roads. I had no friends, so I felt very sad.” – Phong, a Vietnamese American expat interviewed by the Pew Research Center.

“I sometimes, just a little, wish that I would disappear so that my parents and my sister could be better off.” – Nolan, an Asian American interviewed by the Pew Research Center.

Dreams vs. Reality

The American Dream is often celebrated as a path to success, yet its reality is far more nuanced. Tales of rags to riches from Asian peers suggest its promise, but the Pew Research Center reports that one in ten Asian Americans still live in poverty as of 2024. The issue lies not solely in the Dream itself but in how it is constructed and understood.

For many Asians, the American Dream is synonymous with upward mobility achieved through hard work and resilience—a belief that effort alone can overcome systemic barriers. But resilience, by its nature, demands enduring hardship and accepting foreignness, perpetuating a narrative that reinforces isolation and discrepancy.

The American Dream is synonymous with upward mobility achieved through hard work and resilience (Image Source: Roberto Parada)

The American Dream is synonymous with upward mobility achieved through hard work and resilience (Image Source: Roberto Parada)

The Illusion of Gold

The idolization of a Western nation paved in gold is an illusion that perpetuates xenophobia and the model minority myth. This ideological flaw is alluring and dangerous. We have all heard heartbreaking stories of illegal labor exports and stowaway immigrants. Yet we tend to remember the rags-to-riches stories because it is comforting to view ourselves as the ones who might make it. All while labeling these immigrants as illegal, the other, the individual Asian Americans who will live in poverty. But by doing so, we have fallen trapped in the American Dream, clawing our way to the top for the sake of others. 

After the pandemic, anti-Asian and hate crimes have increased. The encounter paints a reflection of our society, there is no line between the one and the other nine, we are Asians and that is our identity. Then is the American Dream a lie? Not necessarily—but it is far from universal.

Community as the Key

Like all dreams, it is what we make of it.  Whether in America, Asia, or any part of the world, opportunities coexist with difficulties. Moving to another country means tackling obstacles such as language and cultural barriers alongside the burden you once had at home. Statistics show that 61% of Asian adults seek family and friends when facing financial burdens. This can become challenging when migrating to a new country. 

The key lies in recognizing that success is not achieved alone. Building networks and fostering solidarity within communities can challenge the isolating demands of resilience and redefine the Dream as a collective effort toward meaningful progress.

The American Dream is both a beacon of hope and a paradox. For many Asian Americans, the pursuit of upward mobility comes with sacrifices that are often overlooked. Yet, success doesn’t need to be a solitary journey. By embracing shared struggles and fostering a supportive community, one can find hope by redefining what the American Dream truly means.

Sources: Pew Research Center – 1 in 10: Redefining the Asian American Dream (Short Film), Pew Research Center – The Hardships and Dreams of Asian Americans Living in Poverty, Edelman, C&EN, Reappropriate.