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December 13, 2022

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This may have happened to you (maybe not the musical writing part), or you may know someone from an Asian background who is currently struggling as their parents had strongly expected or already had chosen a job for them.

But how many of you have bravely rejected your parents’ desires, and followed your true passion? Take it from this courageous girl, Joy Regullano. You might remember her from the viral YouTube sketch called White Fetish, or various random acting gigs like the TV Series Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (her line was “Yeah, bitch!”) or Modern Family (with her line was “You fools!”).

That’s right, Joy is quite too far from wearing a white coat. She’s an actress, comedian, and writer — every Asian parents’ nightmare. So when she told her parents that she didn’t want to be a doctor anymore, her father didn’t talk to her for 8 months. Years later, she wrote a comedy musical about it, called Supportive White Parents.

“Working on this musical has been a major part of my healing journey (my parents are imperfect people who were just passing down intergenerational trauma) and maybe it can be part of yours too,” Joy expresses.

Read through as Joy shares how she has discovered her passion for comedy, and her journey to healing and acceptance through her musical.

MY WHOLE LIFE, I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO BE A DOCTOR JUST LIKE MY PARENTS

My parents were born and raised in the Philippines. My dad grew up very poor in one of the provinces, but after scoring in the top percentage of all students across the country on an exam, he got a scholarship to a prestigious science high school in Manila that was all expenses paid. My parents met in medical school, and soon after graduating, they came to the US by way of New York. Eventually, they made their way across the country to Eagle Rock in LA and then Orange County, where I grew up. 

My whole life, I thought I was going to be a doctor just like my parents. I tried my best to be the perfect daughter. I got straight A’s and took piano lessons since I was 3 and violin lessons starting at 8. (Well, actually, I got one B+ in AP/IB Physics, but we don’t talk about that B+) I studied math outside of school at Kumon and played educational computer games because it was a productive use of my time. I read medical books my parents had lying around the house and had subscriptions to science magazines in high school, for fun.

But as I grew older, there was a part of me that was starting to love writing and making people laugh. For 7th-grade vocabulary exercises, I cared more about making my sentences funny than using the word right. My favorite part about English and Spanish group projects was writing the scripts and acting in them. I wrote bad high school poetry. But I didn’t think that was an acceptable thing to want to do with my life, so I shoved that part down, deep inside me. I did write for the school newspaper and compete in speech contests and debate teams, but that was about the extent of my (public) creative life. 

But as I grew older, there was a part of me that was starting to love writing and making people laugh.

-Joy Regullano

I LOVED FEELING LIKE I COULD MAKE THE AUDIENCE LAUGH AND CRY JUST BY TELLING AN HONEST STORY

I went to UC Berkeley pre-med and was planning to take over my dad’s clinic when he retired. But in the first semester of my freshman year, I got a B on my first math test and a C on my first chem test, and I panicked. After some soul-searching, I realized I wasn’t actually passionate about any of that and ended up cycling through a bunch of different majors before landing on Theater and Southeast Asian Studies.

I wrote a play in college about a friend who had passed away in high school, and when I put it up in front of an audience, I was hooked. I loved feeling like I could make the audience laugh and cry just by telling an honest story. Just by being myself. I wanted to do that for the rest of my life. I loved Tina Fey and Amy Poehler’s work so much that I couldn’t even watch them for a long time because it hurt that I wasn’t doing what they were doing. 

WHITE PARENTS: A MUSICAL INSPIRED BY MY LIFE

I wrote the book and the lyrics to a comedy musical called “Supportive White Parents” about an Asian girl who tells her parents she doesn’t want to be a doctor anymore, and when they’re disappointed, she wishes on a shooting star for supportive white parents. Eventually, she learns to love her Filipino parents for who they are. My friends Sam Johnides and Tony Gonzalez wrote the music.

The musical was inspired by my life. When I told my parents I didn’t want to be a doctor like them and take over my dad’s clinic, my dad yelled at me, called me selfish, and didn’t talk to me for 8 months. I was absolutely devastated, even though I knew that making people laugh and cry was what I had been put on this earth to do. 

I felt so jealous of my white theater classmates with their seemingly endlessly supportive white parents. And funny enough, they were jealous of me because I had something called “discipline”, played multiple instruments, and knew other languages. And thus, the seed of a musical was born.

Eventually, she learns to love her Filipino parents for who they are.

-Joy Regullano

LAUGHING AT OURSELVES CAN BE ONE OF THE BEST WAYS TO HEAL

There aren’t many Asian American musicals, let alone comedy Asian American musicals. One of my teachers says that comedy is the back door to the truth. I think that laughing at ourselves can be one of the best ways to heal, as well as realizing that we are not alone. 

We as a generation are going through this together, and also, we, as well as our parents, are the products of society and intergenerational trauma. We are all imperfect people who are trying the best we can with the tools we have. 

ACCEPTANCE IS THE QUICKEST WAY TO SANITY AND PEACE

I love the serenity prayer. There are some things that we can change, and we should do what we can to change those things. There are some things we can’t change, and it’ll drive you crazy trying to. You can’t control other people. You can only control yourself. The sooner you can accept other people are how they are, the sooner you’ll stop giving your energy away. 

Also, one thing I learned that blew my mind is that it’s actually not love, to wish that your parents or family were different than who they are. If what I was asking from them was to love me for exactly who I am, with all my imperfections, isn’t that what I should be giving them too? Unconditional love and acceptance? (That’s not to say that you shouldn’t have boundaries – that could be a whole other article.) But accepting things you can’t change is the quickest way to sanity and peace. 

If what I was asking from them was to love me for exactly who I am, with all my imperfections, isn’t that what I should be giving them too?

-Joy Regullano

It’s a daily practice. But try it! After reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck”, I tried to imagine that I only had one f– to give a day. How much energy would I be saving by only getting bent out of shape over the most important things!? I’m not really good at giving only one f– a day. But I’ll keep trying.

One more thing – some people need to be angry before they move to acceptance. I know I did, and I still feel angry sometimes. Accepting yourself and your feelings is part of the process too. Wherever you are in your journey is okay.

CONNECT WITH JOY

Instagram: @supportivewhiteparents @joyregullano

Twitter: @swpmusical @joyregullano

Website: www.supportivewhiteparents.com

Be on the lookout for the upcoming Supportive White Parent concept album, to be released in January 2023, with singles leading up to it! 

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From Hong Kong to Silicon Valley: Unspun’s Journey to Revolutionize Sustainable Fashion

In this interview, we delve into the inspiring journey of Walden Lam, the co-founder of Unspun, a company on a mission to revolutionize the fashion industry through sustainable practices and innovative technology. Walden shares his story, from his early exposure to manufacturing in Hong Kong to the challenges of raising capital for a deep-tech venture in Silicon Valley. He discusses the initial years of Unspun, the complexities of operating a global supply chain, and his vision for the future. Walden also reflects on how his Asian heritage has influenced his entrepreneurial journey and offers valuable advice for young entrepreneurs.

HanYue: Tell us about how Unspun was started. 

Walden: I grew up in Hong Kong, in a family that did manufacturing, so I always had exposure to that. I graduated undergrad during the financial crisis, which forced me to reconsider my career paths. My initial projects out of undergrad were climate-related, exposing me to the complex problems and the structured, yet often inflexible, approaches usually taken in strategy consulting. 

HanYue: What were the first 2-3 years of Unspun like? 

Walden: My journey to the GSB was fueled by hypotheses about consumer-facing ventures. Just weeks before graduation, I learned through a Design school blast about a co-founder opportunity that aimed to bring additive manufacturing (like 3D printing) to commercial applications. This meeting, where I saw a desktop mockup, changed the trajectory of my life. Every Silicon Valley VC then was really scared of “deep-tech” companies, it was a hard time raising capital for what we wanted to do.

HanYue: What was it like to operate a company that has operations on both coasts? 

Walden: In the early years, Unspun resembled an R&D company, keeping our product development under wraps until late 2022. After going through a hardware accelerator and securing government grants, we spent our initial months in Shenzhen and Hong Kong, leveraging the good manufacturing ecosystem. Operating on both coasts highlighted the benefits of a global supply chain, essential for managing garment production still predominantly based in Asia, but processed globally.

HanYue: What is next for Unspun? What is your vision? 

Walden: Our unwavering vision focuses on reducing emissions globally—a significant challenge given the industry’s varied estimates on emission impacts, ranging from 4-9%. Our goal is not just to be a standalone brand but to influence the industry by integrating lower-impact practices into their manufacturing practices. We’re starting with basic products and gradually expanding into more refined and performance-oriented categories, aiming to transform efficiency and cost into a platform beneficial for all.

HanYue: How has being Asian influenced your entrepreneurship journey? 

Walden: Growing up in Hong Kong has shaped my approach to both life and business. It has fostered a curiosity and a desire to break out of local confines, driving me to pursue opportunities abroad. I always raise my hand when it comes to getting out of my own environment. Back in my consulting days, I volunteered for a project in Nigeria – my colleagues thought I was crazy. 

But I always had the notion that there’s so much that happens outside your own bubble. This openness has been instrumental in building a company with a flexible, global perspective, partnering with brands and manufacturers across continents. With the company, we now have brand partners in the EU, manufacturing partners in Asia, and capital partners elsewhere. That opened up lots of opportunities. Our goal is to influence a global industry, we need that mindset and curiosity.

HanYue: It sounds like growing up in Hong Kong has given you open-mindedness and the courage that you are not afraid to deal with people and environments different from yours. That is VERY precious. What advice would you give to young entrepreneurs these days? 

Walden: My advice for young entrepreneurs is to adopt a long-term perspective. Do not be afraid of having a contrarian view.  We are really focused on building a cross-generational company that endures and transcends time. 

Another piece is to think more like an architect of your own company, and less about your individual contribution, hopefully charting a course for the company that can sustain you, you don’t have to do everything all by yourself.

HanYue: That’s a really insightful take. Where can we find Unspun jeans now? 

Walden: You can find more about us at unspun.io, where you can shop for our customized jeans online. We also launched a small collection at NY Fashion Week, which is still available. 

As Unspun continues to push the boundaries of sustainable fashion, Walden Lam’s journey serves as a testament to the power of innovation and global collaboration. Keep an eye on Unspun as they strive to reshape the industry, one custom pair of jeans at a time.

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Sophia Li Unites Two Cultures for Climate Action and Social Advocacy

AHN and Meta Prosper have partnered on a new podcast series highlighting API creators. Meta Prosper is dedicated to amplifying and supporting the API community and driving economic growth and equitable representation. The Creators Podcast series delivers stories on how creators achieved success and created impact through their platforms, serving as an inspiration for the community.

In the fourth episode of Creators Podcast, we embark on an empowering journey as AHN and Meta Prosper sit down with Sophia Li, a phenomenal Chinese American journalist, climate advocate, and public speaker. In this episode, Sophia Li addresses her cultural heritage and how she raises awareness of complicated subjects including climate justice, civil rights, and technology with ease. 

Even though Sophia was born and raised in the US, she spent two years of childhood with her grandparents in Shandong, China before returning to the US for preschool. Her adjustment to the US culture, along with Buddhist influence throughout childhood, has turned her cross-cultural journeys and wisdom into impact, bridging the two worlds apart into one globally mutual cause – sustainability. 

Sophia has always been a social advocate. After graduating with a Bachelor of Arts in Fashion Design and Merchandising, her paper on cotton globalization enabled her to receive a $2,000 grant from Cotton Inc., travel the world for fashion studies, and land a four-year position at Vogue.

Now, leveraging her platform and knowledge, she co-founded STEWARD, a project that emphasizes sustainability in the world of Web3 while serving as the co-chair of the World Economic Forum’s Web3 Sustainability Coalition. 

Moreover, Sophia does not stop at climate change but she’s also a vocal advocate for social justice. Sophia is an official United Nations Human Rights Champion and a strong supporter of the #StopAsianHate movement and youth education. 

Listen to the Creators Podcast featuring Sophia Li here.

CONNECT WITH SOPHIA LI

Instagram: @sophfei

Website: sophfei.com

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Transforming the Future of Work: An Insightful Conversation with JJ on Entrepreneurship, Innovation, and Personal Growth

In this candid conversation, JJ reflects on his remarkable journey, from gaining admission to Stanford GSB to founding Onloop. He discusses his proudest achievements, the challenges of building a pioneering company, and the invaluable lessons learned along the way. JJ also shares his vision for Onloop in the evolving landscape of remote work and generative AI, his approach to angel investing, and offers insightful advice for aspiring entrepreneurs. Join us as we delve into the experiences and insights of a trailblazing entrepreneur committed to transforming the future of work.

HanYue: You have accomplished a lot in your career. What’s your proudest achievement so far?

JJ: My proudest achievement remains getting into the Stanford GSB MBA program. Before Stanford, I had spent my entire life in Asia. Moving to Stanford marked a significant shift in both my career and personal development. Immersing myself in the challenging yet enriching environment of the Bay Area was transformative, and I just returned there for my 10-year reunion.

HanYue: Can you tell us about the origins of Onloop?

JJ: Onloop originated from personal frustrations I encountered while managing teams at Uber for 3.5 years, especially with inefficient HR processes. This led to extreme frustration with the outdated systems. After leaving Uber in September 2019, I started OnLoop to solve some of these frustrations. We developed our first product around changing how performance reviews get done using GPT3 in early 2021. We’ve come a long way building out our platform and focused on helping every manager become a great manager using habit-forming technology and applied AI It’s been an exhilarating journey, shaping a company that contributes to the evolving future of work landscape especially given all the transformative impact of distributed & hybrid work as well as the maturity of large language models (LLMs).

HanYue: What have you learned from building Onloop?

JJ: Building Onloop has taught me that a founder’s longevity hinges on their conviction in their mission and the people they surround themselves with. Pioneering in any field is incredibly challenging—far more so than creating a copycat startup. Jensen Huang famously said he’d say ‘hell no’ if asked to do it all over again. The world resists change, and you must consistently challenge the status quo. 

Growing up in an Asian household where academic success was prioritized and entrepreneurship was uncommon, taking a non-salary path wasn’t easy. This background often amplifies the voices of doubt during challenging times, yet confidence and eloquence are the most significant drivers of success in the early days. 

Life in your late 30s and 40s has many more responsibilities with respect to family so it’s not always easy to take the plunge, but the learning experience from entrepreneurship is absolutely invaluable. I’m better off for it, even if things don’t pan out as expected. Starting a company is like becoming a parent—it’s a transformative experience that teaches you new ways to live.

HanYue: What’s your vision for Onloop?

JJ: Our vision at Onloop is to help knowledge workers fully realize their potential during this era of significant transformation. The rise of remote work and the advent of generative AI—akin to an industrial revolution for knowledge workers—presents new challenges and opportunities. We aim to help these professionals optimize their careers in a rapidly changing environment. The knowledge work sector is vast and often influenced by chance, especially in job placement – knowledge worker wages are a multi-trillion dollar asset class allocated by chance. My goal is to develop and disseminate optimal strategies for knowledge workers, enabling them to seize the best opportunities available.

HanYue: Tell me about your angel investing career and how it impacts your entrepreneurship journey.

JJ: I don’t subscribe to the notion of work-life balance but prefer to maintain a purpose portfolio, which currently includes my family, OnLoop, and enhancing Singapore’s status as a global hub, especially for highly innovative companies. My approach to angel investing focuses more on the people than the ideas themselves, reinforcing my belief that the right people drive success. And I apply this same principle in my work with other CEOs and founders.

While I believe any manager can become great with the right support, a CEO doesn’t have a direct manager, making coaching essential. I therefore coach a handful of founder CEOs and  this interaction offers mutual learning opportunities and enhances my own growth as a CEO/founder 

Talking about angel investing, it isn’t just for the rich and wealthy. I have made six investments so far in the range of US$1,000 through syndicates to US$15,000 in certain founders that I know personally. I have learned that while my bets on ideas have failed, my bets on people have not. This supports my hypothesis that early-stage investing is 80% about the founding team. 

Lastly, having become a Singaporean last year, I feel even more committed to the Singaporean ecosystem and proud to build in it.

HanYue: Advice for young entrepreneurs these days? 

JJ: When I was single and enjoyed partying, I never imagined I’d find myself here today. People seek pleasure when they lack purpose, as Victor Frankl famously spoke about. Today, living a life of purpose is crucial for happiness — it involves engaging in activities that you deeply enjoy and believe are your calling. This philosophy has guided both my personal and professional life and serves as my constant motivation. 

JJ’s journey exemplifies the blend of purpose and innovation needed to navigate the evolving landscape of modern work. His insights into entrepreneurship, the importance of mission-driven leadership, and the power of transformative technology offer invaluable guidance for the next generation of innovators.

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How Benny Yap and Jae Tan Drive TGFX Agency’s Success

Benny Yap and Jae Tan are not just co-founders of TGFX Agency; they are a powerhouse duo transforming businesses through innovative branding and marketing.

Benny Yap, a seasoned entrepreneur, is renowned for his outstanding achievements in the marketing and advertising industry. His expertise encompasses advertising, branding, illustration, and ideation. Benny Yap’s leadership and artistic vision play a pivotal role in shaping TGFX’s distinctive approach to branding and marketing, driving its success.

Jae Tan is a dedicated and results-driven entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in branding, web development, and video production. Under his strategic guidance and leadership, Jae has propelled TGFX to unprecedented success.

Jae Tan (left) and Benny Yap in a meeting.
Jae Tan (left) and Benny Yap in a meeting.

In an exclusive interview with Asian Hustle Network, Benny and Jae share their journey, challenges, and insights, offering a glimpse into the dynamic partnership driving TGFX. Read on to discover how they are transforming brands and making a lasting impact on the marketing industry.

EARLY CAREER AND THE BIRTH OF TGFX

Benny Yap and Jae Tan both studied graphic design and advertising and initially met through a design project. This collaboration not only brought them together as best friends but also sparked the idea of starting a business together. They realized that by combining their forces—their creativity and design skills—they could tackle the business world more effectively as a team. This shared vision and partnership led them to start TGFX.

OVERCOMING INITIAL CHALLENGES

Benny and Jae faced significant challenges when starting TGFX, especially during the COVID period. One of the biggest hurdles was adapting their business model. Initially, they focused on one-off jobs, but they soon realized the need for stability and consistent cash flow.

They decided to pivot to a retainer basis, particularly in social media marketing. This shift not only helped them navigate through a difficult time but also allowed them to build stronger, long-term relationships with their clients.

DYNAMIC PARTNERSHIP

As co-founders, Benny and Jae complement each other perfectly in running TGFX. Benny, previously from BBDO Advertising agency, brings a wealth of creativity and innovative ideas, driving the creative direction and ensuring the campaigns are cutting-edge, Meanwhile, Jae excels in managing operations and strategic planning, providing a solid foundation for the business. This dynamic allows them to leverage their individual strengths, resulting in a well-balanced and effective partnership.

TGFX’S MISSION AND CORE VALUES

TGFX’s mission is to help businesses across Australia succeed and thrive. Their core values include providing world-class services and being recognized as one of the best and most innovative agencies in Australia. They emphasize treating clients like family and growing alongside them, fostering strong, long-term relationships built on trust and mutual success. 

INDUSTRY-SPECIFIC CHALLENGES

Having worked with numerous businesses across various industries, TGFX encounters several industry-specific challenges. Key issues include maintaining brand consistency, attracting the right customers, and building a loyal customer base.

TGFX addresses these challenges by tackling each core issue one day at a time and maintaining consistency in everything they do for the brand. This methodical and dedicated approach helps their clients overcome obstacles and achieve long-term success.

IMPACT ON THE ASIAN COMMUNITY

As entrepreneurs with roots in the Asian community, Benny and Jae see TGFX Agency as having a significant impact and contribution to this community. With 80% of their clientele being Asian-owned businesses, TGFX Agency is dedicated to helping the Asian business community in Australia thrive. By providing tailored branding and marketing strategies, they support these businesses in achieving success and growth.

Jae Tan (left) and Benny Yap
With TGFX, the duo aim to uplift Asian businesses in Australia.

ADVICE FOR ASPIRING ENTREPRENEURS

Benny and Jae emphasize the importance of adding value to the marketplace. Aspiring entrepreneurs should understand their consumers’ needs and preferences thoroughly, conduct extensive market research, and stay attuned to industry trends and client feedback.

“Persistence is key—never give up, even when faced with challenges. Building a successful agency requires resilience, continuous learning, and an unwavering commitment to delivering exceptional service and results. In addition to that, our team is the cornerstone of our success. Without their dedication and hard work, we wouldn’t have achieved our current position. Each member plays a crucial role in our accomplishments, bringing unique skills and perspectives that drive our progress forward. We are deeply grateful for their commitment and contribution to our shared goals. Together, we continue to grow and thrive, thanks to their invaluable efforts,” Benny and Jae shared.

Benny Yap (left) and Jae Tan
Benny (left) and Jae highlight persistence, market research, and a strong team as keys to success.

FUTURE VISION AND GOALS

TGFX Agency continually strives to expand into new areas across Australia and different industries, aiming to deliver data-driven results to businesses in need of growth. They are also committed to expanding their Malaysia agency, bringing on new businesses, and growing the team there.

Benny and Jae are excited about the future and look forward to furthering their impact on businesses both locally and internationally. Their advice to others is to stay focused, and consistent, and always strive to add value. Understand your customers’ needs and don’t shy away from innovation.

CONNECT WITH TGFX

Website: tgfx.com.au

Instagram: @tgfx.agency