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December 13, 2022

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This may have happened to you (maybe not the musical writing part), or you may know someone from an Asian background who is currently struggling as their parents had strongly expected or already had chosen a job for them.

But how many of you have bravely rejected your parents’ desires, and followed your true passion? Take it from this courageous girl, Joy Regullano. You might remember her from the viral YouTube sketch called White Fetish, or various random acting gigs like the TV Series Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (her line was “Yeah, bitch!”) or Modern Family (with her line was “You fools!”).

That’s right, Joy is quite too far from wearing a white coat. She’s an actress, comedian, and writer — every Asian parents’ nightmare. So when she told her parents that she didn’t want to be a doctor anymore, her father didn’t talk to her for 8 months. Years later, she wrote a comedy musical about it, called Supportive White Parents.

“Working on this musical has been a major part of my healing journey (my parents are imperfect people who were just passing down intergenerational trauma) and maybe it can be part of yours too,” Joy expresses.

Read through as Joy shares how she has discovered her passion for comedy, and her journey to healing and acceptance through her musical.

MY WHOLE LIFE, I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO BE A DOCTOR JUST LIKE MY PARENTS

My parents were born and raised in the Philippines. My dad grew up very poor in one of the provinces, but after scoring in the top percentage of all students across the country on an exam, he got a scholarship to a prestigious science high school in Manila that was all expenses paid. My parents met in medical school, and soon after graduating, they came to the US by way of New York. Eventually, they made their way across the country to Eagle Rock in LA and then Orange County, where I grew up. 

My whole life, I thought I was going to be a doctor just like my parents. I tried my best to be the perfect daughter. I got straight A’s and took piano lessons since I was 3 and violin lessons starting at 8. (Well, actually, I got one B+ in AP/IB Physics, but we don’t talk about that B+) I studied math outside of school at Kumon and played educational computer games because it was a productive use of my time. I read medical books my parents had lying around the house and had subscriptions to science magazines in high school, for fun.

But as I grew older, there was a part of me that was starting to love writing and making people laugh. For 7th-grade vocabulary exercises, I cared more about making my sentences funny than using the word right. My favorite part about English and Spanish group projects was writing the scripts and acting in them. I wrote bad high school poetry. But I didn’t think that was an acceptable thing to want to do with my life, so I shoved that part down, deep inside me. I did write for the school newspaper and compete in speech contests and debate teams, but that was about the extent of my (public) creative life. 

But as I grew older, there was a part of me that was starting to love writing and making people laugh.

-Joy Regullano

I LOVED FEELING LIKE I COULD MAKE THE AUDIENCE LAUGH AND CRY JUST BY TELLING AN HONEST STORY

I went to UC Berkeley pre-med and was planning to take over my dad’s clinic when he retired. But in the first semester of my freshman year, I got a B on my first math test and a C on my first chem test, and I panicked. After some soul-searching, I realized I wasn’t actually passionate about any of that and ended up cycling through a bunch of different majors before landing on Theater and Southeast Asian Studies.

I wrote a play in college about a friend who had passed away in high school, and when I put it up in front of an audience, I was hooked. I loved feeling like I could make the audience laugh and cry just by telling an honest story. Just by being myself. I wanted to do that for the rest of my life. I loved Tina Fey and Amy Poehler’s work so much that I couldn’t even watch them for a long time because it hurt that I wasn’t doing what they were doing. 

WHITE PARENTS: A MUSICAL INSPIRED BY MY LIFE

I wrote the book and the lyrics to a comedy musical called “Supportive White Parents” about an Asian girl who tells her parents she doesn’t want to be a doctor anymore, and when they’re disappointed, she wishes on a shooting star for supportive white parents. Eventually, she learns to love her Filipino parents for who they are. My friends Sam Johnides and Tony Gonzalez wrote the music.

The musical was inspired by my life. When I told my parents I didn’t want to be a doctor like them and take over my dad’s clinic, my dad yelled at me, called me selfish, and didn’t talk to me for 8 months. I was absolutely devastated, even though I knew that making people laugh and cry was what I had been put on this earth to do. 

I felt so jealous of my white theater classmates with their seemingly endlessly supportive white parents. And funny enough, they were jealous of me because I had something called “discipline”, played multiple instruments, and knew other languages. And thus, the seed of a musical was born.

Eventually, she learns to love her Filipino parents for who they are.

-Joy Regullano

LAUGHING AT OURSELVES CAN BE ONE OF THE BEST WAYS TO HEAL

There aren’t many Asian American musicals, let alone comedy Asian American musicals. One of my teachers says that comedy is the back door to the truth. I think that laughing at ourselves can be one of the best ways to heal, as well as realizing that we are not alone. 

We as a generation are going through this together, and also, we, as well as our parents, are the products of society and intergenerational trauma. We are all imperfect people who are trying the best we can with the tools we have. 

ACCEPTANCE IS THE QUICKEST WAY TO SANITY AND PEACE

I love the serenity prayer. There are some things that we can change, and we should do what we can to change those things. There are some things we can’t change, and it’ll drive you crazy trying to. You can’t control other people. You can only control yourself. The sooner you can accept other people are how they are, the sooner you’ll stop giving your energy away. 

Also, one thing I learned that blew my mind is that it’s actually not love, to wish that your parents or family were different than who they are. If what I was asking from them was to love me for exactly who I am, with all my imperfections, isn’t that what I should be giving them too? Unconditional love and acceptance? (That’s not to say that you shouldn’t have boundaries – that could be a whole other article.) But accepting things you can’t change is the quickest way to sanity and peace. 

If what I was asking from them was to love me for exactly who I am, with all my imperfections, isn’t that what I should be giving them too?

-Joy Regullano

It’s a daily practice. But try it! After reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck”, I tried to imagine that I only had one f– to give a day. How much energy would I be saving by only getting bent out of shape over the most important things!? I’m not really good at giving only one f– a day. But I’ll keep trying.

One more thing – some people need to be angry before they move to acceptance. I know I did, and I still feel angry sometimes. Accepting yourself and your feelings is part of the process too. Wherever you are in your journey is okay.

CONNECT WITH JOY

Instagram: @supportivewhiteparents @joyregullano

Twitter: @swpmusical @joyregullano

Website: www.supportivewhiteparents.com

Be on the lookout for the upcoming Supportive White Parent concept album, to be released in January 2023, with singles leading up to it! 

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Jennifer Lau on Shaping the Future of Triathlons and Elevating Women in Sports

In celebration of Women’s History Month, we shed light on the incredible women transforming the world and driving the community forward. This month, we are honored to interview the visionary at the helm of the world’s toughest multi-course race—the Escape from Alcatraz Triathlon: Jennifer Lau. As the Vice President of Action Sports Events at IMG, Jennifer is a proud Chinese American who has constantly stayed at the forefront of the sports and entertainment industry for over 25 years.

PIONEERING CHANGE IN SPORTS AND ENTERTAINMENT

It’s the era of women making big moves and solidifying their status in society. Jennifer is also part of the movement. Fueled by a passion for storytelling and inclusivity, Jennifer made her way into the sports and entertainment industry through determination and a vision for change. “I always knew I wanted to work in sports and entertainment,” she shares. “Growing up, I loved reading and watching movies, TV shows, and sports that featured stories I could relate to. Regardless of economic class, gender, or ethnicity, these stories resonated with me, and I wanted to be part of that creative process.” And what is her goal? It has always been through storytelling that she wants to connect and uplift others.

Jennifer has been dreaming of a narrative where she could pave her own path in the male-dominated industry, earn the top ranks with her own talent, and she did just that. She rose through the ranks at IMG and earned her place at some of the world’s most iconic sporting events—the Escape from Alcatraz Triathlon.

Jennifer Lau Vice President of Action Sports Events at IMG
From dreaming of change to leading it, Jennifer Lau is making waves in the sports and entertainment industry.

Reflecting on this, Jennifer shares:

The sports and entertainment industries have historically been male-dominated, presenting challenges in leadership and visibility for women, particularly women of color. Throughout my career, I’ve had to advocate for myself, push boundaries, and challenge preconceived notions about what leadership in sports looks like. I’m grateful to the executive team at IMG. Over the last 25 years, they have always supported me and continue to encourage me to pursue new business opportunities and ideas, which has allowed me to grow and evolve.

FOSTERING INCLUSIVITY IN THE ESCAPE FROM ALCATRAZ TRIATHLON

The Escape from Alcatraz Triathlon has roots in this stretch of odds, which holds a powerful claim of Jennifer’s commitment to inclusivity. The race, known for its strenuous course—plunging into the ice-cold waters of San Francisco Bay, biking on steep and bumpy hills, running through the dirt and rocks—pushes the envelope for many athletes. What makes the 2025 race special is that this year, an impressive number of 405 women will take part in this challenging race, exemplifying the growing influence of women in endurance sports.

This marks a significant milestone as women have long been underrepresented in the sports industry. Jennifer recognizes the need for greater Asian representation in the triathlon space. 

Asian females, like many women, are underrepresented in sports and entertainment—whether behind the scenes, in management, as athletes, or as content producers. Growing up, I rarely saw stories that reflected my identity in the industry, which motivated me to push for more representation. The perspectives and stories from the Asian community are essential in shaping the future of the industry, not only for visibility but for driving meaningful business and cultural impact.

EMPOWERING ATHLETES AND FUTURE GENERATIONS

Beyond race day, Jennifer’s commitment is a reminder of sportsmanship, which is unity and camaraderie. She aims to highlight the human connections behind the competition, with a focus on the fact that the Escape from Alcatraz Triathlon is not about elite athleticism. The race is a beacon of people connecting, sharing, and uplifting each other. “The camaraderie that emerges as athletes cross the finish line makes the achievement even more meaningful. It’s a celebration of resilience, determination, and unity.”

Companionship at the Escape from Alcatraz Triathlon
Sportsmanship is not just about health and fitness, it’s also about unity and camaraderie.

“With the Escape from Alcatraz Triathlon, we’ve noticed that not many Asians participate in the sport,” she explains. “While many run or bike, swimming opportunities are often limited in Asian communities due to a lack of access to pools or open water environments. Our priority is to engage with Asian communities and other underrepresented groups, creating opportunities for them to experience this incredible sport.”

CONNECT WITH JENNIFER LAU

“One of my proudest achievements is seeing the events I’ve helped create continue to provide opportunities for athletes, inspire future generations, and entertain global audiences. Witnessing athletes who started in our events go on to compete at the Olympic level is incredibly rewarding.”

Instagram: @jenwlau 
LinkedIn: Jennifer Lau

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Beyond Fashion: JINZA Oriental Couture’s Journey of Empowerment

“What fuels my passion is the personal stories of each of my clients. They teach me something new every day—whether it’s their high standards, attention to detail, or unique perspectives on the world,” states Grace Pei, founder of JINZA Oriental Couture.

Recognizing the power of handcrafted wedding dresses to connect people with their cultural heritage and express their unique stories, Grace is on a mission to highlight the beauty and sophistication of Chinese culture through JINZA Oriental Couture. 

The First Threads

Initially, JINZA Oriental Couture specialized in Western wedding dresses and custom evening gowns at Jinza Couture Bridal. But one fateful day, Grace was approached by a third-generation Asian American bride who wanted a custom Qipao for her wedding reception. 

Grace recalls, ‘This request sparked my journey into researching the Qipao and uncovering what had been lost over the years. Through this process, I discovered that my grandmothers used to wear tailored Qipaos in their time, and I began exploring my family roots.’ 

This reflective journey ignited a new passion in Grace: creating hand-embroidered designs that reflect her client’s unique family histories, cultural heritage, and personal stories. 

With a decade of expertise in bespoke fashion, JINZA Oriental Couture now specializes in handcrafted Chinese wedding dresses, Qipaos/Cheongsams, and Tang suits – all designed and made locally in Los Angeles for weddings and cultural celebrations.

Qipao Wedding Dress at Modern Tea Ceremony (Image source: JINZA Oriental Couture)

Qipao Wedding Dress at Modern Tea Ceremony (Image source: JINZA Oriental Couture)

Unraveling Tangles

Asian fashion has evolved dramatically over the years, with many traditional elements fading from modern designs. As a result, much of this cultural heritage has been lost or overlooked.

“One of the biggest challenges I’ve faced in my business journey is overcoming the misconception that Qipao and Cheongsam should be inexpensive or easily replaceable. Many people ask, “Why should I invest in something I can buy on Amazon or Etsy for $200?” Grace explains.

As the gap between mainstream fashion and Asian fashion narrows, Grace points out that these traditional dresses have become occasional pieces—costumes for special events rather than meaningful, handcrafted works of art. 

To address this, Grace focuses on educating her clients about the value of bespoke fashion: the intricate embroidery, high-quality fabrics, and cultural heritage woven into every piece.

“At Jinza Oriental Couture, we see our mission as both an artistic pursuit and a learning journey alongside our clients. Every client brings a unique story, and we don’t aim to replicate what was done centuries ago but instead incorporate meaningful elements that speak to their identity today.” 

Artisan hand stitching embroidery (Image source: JINZA Oriental Couture)

Artisan hand stitching embroidery (Image source: JINZA Oriental Couture)

Threads of Resilience

“As a mother of two and a first-generation immigrant, I am most proud of the resilience I’ve shown throughout my journey,” Grace exclaims.

Whether overcoming depression or battling an avoidant mindset, Grace’s resilience has transformed JINZA Oriental Couture into more than a fashion brand, but a place for preserving culture and identity.

Grace’s resilience wasn’t built overnight but grew through her passion for helping her community. By preserving cultural heritage through bespoke fashion, she tirelessly designs intricate dresses that tell the unique stories of her clients’ identities.

Grace happily recalls, “Hearing their stories, especially when they share old family albums of grandmothers wearing Qipao, often brings tears to my eyes. The hand stitches, still vibrant and beautiful after 100 years, remind me that clothing can carry a story all on its own.”

From custom Qipaos and Cheongsams to Chinese wedding dresses, each piece reflects the personal histories of her clients. Grace’s vision for JINZA Oriental Couture extends beyond fashion—it’s about supporting female leaders, uplifting the Asian community, and ensuring these cultural treasures are passed down to future generations.

When asked which Asian or Asian American—real or fictional—she’d invite to wear one of her dresses, Grace responds, “Lisa Ling (a previous client) and Ronny Chieng are both role models for me due to their commitment to telling powerful stories, standing up for their communities, and offering true support. Phillip Lim is also a successful example of an Asian American designer who has carved out his own voice in the fashion world, and his influence and individuality would be a perfect match for the ethos of Jinza Oriental Couture.” 

A piece from JINZA Oriental Couture (Image source: JINZA Oriental Couture)
A piece from JINZA Oriental Couture (Image source: JINZA Oriental Couture)

Lessons in Resilience and Unity

The two most important lessons Grace has learned from her entrepreneurial journey with JINZA Oriental Couture are authenticity and community.

“My advice to Asian creatives, founders, and entrepreneurs is to always be authentic. There were times when I wanted to take shortcuts or find quicker ways to get things done, but I learned that staying true to who you are and doing the right things, even if they take longer, is what truly matters. Another important piece of advice is to belong to a community you truly believe in. It will make things a lot easier, even when things don’t go as expected. When we, as a community, stay true to our values and support each other, we can create a stronger and more united future,” Grace affirms.

When asked about her future plans, Grace excitedly shares that she’s honing her storytelling skills to speak more boldly about heritage, culture, and community. She’s also open to collaborations, partnerships, and creating more content to amplify her mission.

Grace concludes, “Together, we are stronger, and by working together, we can have a greater impact. I look forward to the possibilities that lie ahead and the opportunities to connect with like-minded individuals and organizations.”

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Website: JINZA Oriental Couture

Instagram: @jinzaoriental

Linkedin: Grace Pei

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Eunice Chen’s Táng Transforms Childhood Night Market into a Moving Animated Story

After transitioning from her career as a teacher to an animation artist and illustrator, the talented Eunice Chen once again decided to test her abilities by creating an animated short film project called Táng (糖).

“人算不如天算” — in Chinese belief, every encounter is predestined and our current state is the fruit of past karma. One life ago, we were somehow, unknowingly, cultivating our karmic connections, which ultimately led to this present life’s encounters or coincidences.

Táng is a movie about one of those by-chance encounters as well that integrates the art of 糖画 (tánghuà). Through the lens of tánghuà – a traditional Chinese sugar-painting art, this unexpected relationship arrives and flourishes into a confounding yet paramount work of fatherhood, family, and fate. 

THE INSPIRATION BEHIND TÁNG

Growing up between the U.S. and Taiwan, Eunice developed deep-rooted cultural memories that shaped her appreciation for her heritage. In this new venture, she continues exploring culture—this time, through nostalgia.

Where should we begin? Back to her childhood in Taiwan, like every other child, Eunice loved going out and visiting open-air markets. Bustling lines of food vendors, jittery echoes of chatters, and also a rare occasion when one can play games without their parents’ side eyes, open markets are the idols of many young children in Taiwan. It is also where she was introduced to the art of sugar-painting.

Reflecting on this memory, Eunice shares:

Yes, the idea of this story first came from my childhood memories of visiting open-air markets and night markets in Taiwan. Whenever I visited those markets, I would always make sure to visit the candy stalls, where master candy makers sculpted these lollipops that were amazing pieces of art and also very tasty confections. And I’ve always had a giant sweet tooth, so I started my film out of a place of joy.

The short film centers around the meaningufl connection between a sugar-painting street vendor (left) and a student.
The short film centers around the meaningful connection between a sugar-painting street vendor (left) and a student.

A REFRESHING TAKE ON FATHERHOOD AND FAMILY

In Chinese families, “血浓于水” (Blood is thicker than water) has long been a staple for centuries—that family is of utmost importance, and the bloodbound places more value than strangers. It is only natural that the concept of a “chosen family” may irk some, who put a sense of filial piety and duty in high regard.  

Of course, it feels almost peculiar for Eunice Chen – the eldest child, who has switched careers, from landing a “safe” job at teaching to taking a more off-the-beaten-path direction towards doll-making and now…animation artist and now…film director!! So expect the unexpected layers and nuances Eunice has painted Táng. Táng is more than just a love letter to Taiwanese night markets. It’s one that Eunice picks up the lack of positive portrayals of father-and-son relationships in the Asian community.

“When someone makes art or a film, sometimes they are painting a world they wish they had or would like to see in the future. I wish I had seen more strong bonds between Asian fathers and sons as I grew up,” Eunice shares. 

While Táng’s messaging can cover this complex matter only to a certain extent; here, Eunice is after something more personal for many Asians: “a healing balm” for those with similar experiences. However, Eunice adds that she’s been seeing a lot of change in parenting recently. She says, “I am super proud of how intentional and hands-on Asian fathers from my generation (and beyond) have been with their children!”

Now, Eunice is bringing Táng to life, but she needs our support.

A scene involving the art of sugar-painting.
A scene involving the art of sugar-painting.

JOIN THE JOURNEY: SUPPORT TÁNG

The idea for Táng came to Eunice during a storyboarding class, when asked to create quick story concepts. Táng was one of the ideas she came up with, leading her to develop a script—her first ever. While world-building and character design might be her forte, the real challenge followed: securing funding. Facing multiple rejections, it took one “yes” from what she thought would be her final meeting to reignite her determination. 

The initial funding allowed her to assemble a small but passionate team, who have since created the film’s first three minutes. Now, they need additional support to complete the project, leading to the launch of their Kickstarter campaign.

But independent films—especially ones that bring forward Asian heritage and underrepresented narratives—need tremendous community support. 

Supporting the Táng crowdfunding campaign is a step forward to preserving a piece of cultural heritage while amplifying nuanced Asian fatherhood stories, and ensuring that art like this can continue to thrive. 

Donate NOW and be part of this journey!

CONNECT WITH EUNICE CHEN

“Keep working on your art and portfolio. Get to know people already working in the industry and learn from them. And make art that comes from the heart and makes you happy. It’s going to be very difficult, especially given the current state of things in the animation industry as a whole, but if this is truly what you want, then don’t give up!”

Instagram: @eunicesketches

Website: eunicesketches.com